Sometimes When you Win you Lose

Matthew 13:12 – For whoever has, to him more will be given, and he will have abundance; but whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.

Have you ever had dreams of winning it big?  Wow!  Imagine what you could do with more.  It would be awesome.  If you had more you could do so many things that you can’t do now.  More would make life so much easier because it would solve all your problems.  The only reason you have issues now is because you don’t have enough.  More will put an end to that.  Everyone needs more and as soon as you get it life will be smooth sailing.

Right now I feel myself welling up with emotion from writing that paragraph.  This feeling comes from the realization that the above statements fill the mind of almost every person I have ever communicated with.  More, more, more.  But more of what?  In that paragraph, I never mentioned more of anything in particular and yet there are some people who would read into it the idea of wealth, friends, status or whatever it is they feel they are lacking.  What if I said more disease, more war, or more corporate downsizing?  Then I bet a lot of people would start making friends with the idea of less.

Winning and losing doesn’t mean anything substantial to me.  A more accurate statement might be that Winning has no power over me because I do not believe in loss.  I only believe in transformation. To so many people winning adds value to their life and their experiences and what they call loss takes away from their life and experiences.  I can’t believe that.  If anything, I feel that all experiences add value to your life—whether you term them winning or losing.

What I have witnessed is that most people create scenarios in their mind and promise themselves that this scenario will come to pass.  Then when the scenario does not play out as they intended they suffer from disappointment.  Now the irony of this situation is that the friction that comes from what actually occurred and what they wanted to occur intersecting, creates a large amount of energy on the subject.  This testifies to my statement that there is no such thing as loss.  All things being energy, if there was an actual loss then the moment someone lost, they would die or disperse or transfer vast amounts of their energy over to the “winner”.  But this is not what actually happens.

Let’s say that two people are in some type of close competition.  Back and forth they go creating more and more friction and subsequent energy until all of a sudden it comes to a head with one being labeled the “winner” and one the “loser”.  What initially happens is the exact same amount of energy is deposited on both subjects by the universe regardless of the outcome.  The variation comes with what the subjects do with that energy.  Generally speaking the “winners” celebrate and the “losers” lament.  The winners surround themselves with supporters that further contribute energy and the losers usually discharge their energy immediately by getting angry, depressed, or abusive.  They look for people to blame for why they didn’t receive the outcome they promised themselves and all other means of getting rid of the energy that they don’t feel that they deserve because they didn’t win.  As a result they surround themselves with a group that sucks from them.  In a way they perform a similar function as the celebrants.

When it comes down to it, what makes someone a loser is really their response to experiences—it’s all in their heads.  Circumstances or other people can never make you a loser, because a loser does not exist outside of oneself. And sadly, everything that seems to support someone’s self criticism is really the response to a supportive, creative universe that always increases whatever we give to it.  So when you ask for more, guess what.  You will always receive more of whatever it is you ask for with your words, attitudes, and intentions.  “Oh” the universe says, “you want more discharging of your energy.  Well here are some people to suck from you.”  You get it?

You think there’s never enough time?  Well the Universe’s answer to that is to bring more stuff in your life to take up your time.  Fortunately, it works both ways.  So hopefully one day, the so-called losers will realize that they do not have to discharge the energy they receive from their work.  But rather, they can say thank you and receive the same reward that was given to their partner and receive the same support of our Universe which is like yeast to our bread of life.  Just something to think about.